Jealousy is one emotion that most people dread having. However, jealousy is an emotion that almost everybody has experienced at least once in their lives. The problem with jealousy is that it is a destructive emotion that can destroy relationships. While jealousy can come and go in your life, overcoming jealousy is what is important. Here are some of the ways to overcome jealousy.
Understanding Why You Are Jealous. It is important first to know where the jealousy is coming from. Why are you jealous? Studies have shown that jealousy correlates with a person’s self-esteem. People with low self-esteem and confidence will often feel ashamed and think critically about themselves. When you feel negative about yourself, this negativity will reflect on your actions and feelings of insecurity. You will develop a nasty habit of judging yourself even if others are not judging you. You will grow suspicious about your romantic partner and grow suspicious about your colleagues at your workplace.
Seek Your Sense of Security. One way of overcoming jealousy is to increase your confidence and self-esteem. Take a good look at yourself and find your positive traits. You have to conquer your inner critic and tell yourself that you are okay and loveable. Recognize when and how you get jealous and nip that feeling in the bud.
Finding Satisfaction. Jealousy and envy often go hand in hand. To overcome these feelings, it is best to take a good look at your current situation and tell yourself that you are satisfied with your relationship and what you have. You do not have to keep up with the Joneses and buy new things just because they have new things. Likewise, in your romantic life, do not compare your partner with the partner of your friend. For example, if your friend’s partner is always bringing her flowers, do not ask your partner to do the same. People have different ways of showing affection, and your partner may have a different way of showing his affections.
Talking About It. When your jealousy is overpowering you, it is important to have a healthy way of expressing what you feel. It is best to find the right person to talk to and become your support. Avoid lashing out your jealousy at your partner. However, it is also important to talk to your partner about your feelings of jealousy. As a couple, you can communicate with each other about the different actions that make you jealous.
When you are in a relationship, it is important to keep open and honest communication with your partner. If you want your partner to trust you, it is also important that you give your trust to your partner. Overcoming jealousy is difficult and will require a certain level of emotional maturity. It is also important to challenge your inner critic and all your insecurities about yourself. Likewise, it would help if you also strengthen your willpower to resist reacting to your jealousy.